Be Serene, Gifted, and Ask for Help
Everyone tells me I'm smart, but dude, I actually need help?
Image is Orion and Sir Marcus from my upcoming fantasy novel series, The Elyndris Chronicles
Giftedness is defined by r/Gifted, a community on reddit, as "a neurodivergence that consists mainly of high mental capacity, which can then be expressed in many complex ways."
The r/Gifted FAQ also notes that gifted people can experience asynchronous development, in their childhood because they develop their intellectual skills sooner than their social-emotional skills. They note that because of this, gifted people easily feel estranged from people around them.
Originally, I suggested the morality-centric selfless solution to estrangement of Be Audacious, Gifted, and Bold. And then I added the selfish solution of Be Proud, Gifted, and Selfish for those who need that boost of self-esteem to carry them through a hard time.
While that may work out for some people, I noted the solution was not meant to be absolutist and apply to everyone. I welcome discussion on ideas of what worked for you, or why these particular suggestions would not work for you, in the aim of being solutions-focused about the matter of feeling estranged from others. I also would like to note here that these solutions are not even exclusive to gifted people and can potentially work for anyone who feels a feeling of estrangement from other people.
This may be a difficult solution to take in for many people. I often hear many repeat the phrases, “I am fine on my own” “This is my responsibility” and some may feel their own ego and competence challenged by the idea of asking for help, but I would invite them to contemplate the possibility that this is a solution that may benefit them in the long run.
The key may be to pick the right person to ask for help. Again, as I suggested in the Be Audacious, Gifted, and Bold article, studying acting and body language may benefit people. There are people who are either naturally or in their job description meant to be the teachers, leaders, mentors, counselors, and guides in the world.
It may be a good idea to be civil and serene when asking for help. By getting on someone’s good side, they may be more inclined to help you. You may even make a friend.
What do you think? Does this work or not work for you? Do you have another solution for the feeling of estrangement from other people? Do you have a personal story related to this topic where you were helped or not helped? Let me know in the comments.